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Children Need Models, Not Critics

Since Sunday morning won’t be focusing much on the fact that Sunday is Father’s Day, I thought I’d offer a few thoughts about that here. My father, who died in 2001, was not a perfect husband or father. But a) he never pretended to be; and b) who is?—certainly not me. But was a great husband and a great father. There was a sign that hung above my father’s desk while I was growing up. It simply said: Children need models, not critics. That was my father’s philosophy. To model – to set an example, to use one’s energy trying to walk the walk yourself – rather than to criticize the failures and faults of others. I want you to imagine, if you will, a child working in the back yard, helping his father build a storage shed, or as we called it, a “mini-barn.” The child is doing it wrong: cutting the wood the wrong length; using the tools incorrectly and even dangerously…taking too long to do the work.  The father knows the child is doing it wrong.