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Still Grieving, AND "moving on" -- five lessons I've learned and relearned about grief

Three weeks ago - August 12th  - in a message titled Prayers, Please I shared the news of my sister's death, which had happened two days earlier. Two weeks ago - August 19th - I wrote about the grieving process itself in Grief and the Upside Down Shovel , sharing with you the fact that in the past (particularly in the aftermath of my niece's murder ), I'd done a terrible job of grieving, and vowing to do better this time. Using the symbol of the upside-down shovel used at Jewish burials, I tried reminding myself (and you) that burying our loved ones - grieving their death - isn't supposed to be an efficient or quick process. It's messy. It's exhausting work. And it takes time. Last week, I started to write about grief again, but stopped myself, and wrote about something else. A few days ago, I spoke to a trusted friend and counselor to get his advice: how often is too often, and how much is too much to share? In response, he said something fascinating